How to help your child
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This page is for the grown-ups. Every activity from the site, in one place. Your child has been learning study techniques that are backed by decades of cognitive science research — not the rubbish most schools still teach. Your job is to be the practice partner.
Why this matters
Most study advice your child gets at school is wrong. Re-reading notes, highlighting, copying things out neatly — all common, all weak. Decades of psychology research show these techniques produce familiarity, not memory. Kids feel ready for the test and then blank on the day.
The Stack flips this. It's built around three techniques with overwhelming research support: pretesting (also called productive failure), active recall, and spaced repetition. Stack them with the right tool (Anki) and the results are dramatic.
For most of these activities, your role is simple: be the practice partner. Ask questions. Listen. Don't correct too early — let your child wrestle with the answer. The struggle is the workout.
The activities by method
Method 1 — Test First (Pretesting)
- Pick a school topic your child has coming up
- Write a 5-question quiz on the topic
- Have them take it without studying first
- Mark it together. Be encouraging about wrong answers — that's the point.
- Have them study only the topics they got wrong for 10 minutes
- Give them the same quiz again — celebrate the score jump
Important: If your child is upset by scoring low on a cold test, remind them that the score is data, not a verdict. A 20% on a cold pretest is normal and useful.
Method 2 — Test Yourself (Active Recall)
- Give them a blank piece of paper
- Set a 5-minute timer
- Ask them to write down everything they can remember about a recent topic
- When the timer goes, compare with their notes
- The gaps are tomorrow's study targets
Do this once a week per topic. The technique is brutally simple but the effect compounds.
Method 3 — Space It Out (Anki)
- Help them download Anki from ankiweb.net (free on desktop and Android, paid on iOS)
- Create an AnkiWeb account together
- Create a deck named after a school subject
- Add 10 cards together — front: question, back: answer
- Have them study the cards immediately
- Set a daily 5-minute alarm — same time every day
Critical: consistency matters more than length. Five minutes every day beats one big session per week. If they miss a day, don't make a drama — just restart the next day with whatever cards are due.
Method 4 — Teach a Teddy (Feynman Technique)
- Pick a concept they've been studying
- Be the listener — they explain it to you as if you know nothing about it
- Listen for big words they can't define
- When they get stuck, ask them to say "I don't know how to explain this bit"
- Have them note the stuck bits
- They study only those bits and try again the next day
Don't help with the explanation. The whole point is to expose what they don't actually understand. Let the silence happen.
Method 5 — Memory Tricks (Mnemonics)
- Pick a list they need to memorise (planets, kings, parts of the body, etc.)
- Look at the first letters of each item
- Together, try to make a real word OR a silly sentence
- Encourage silliness — funny sticks better than serious
- Write the trick down
- Test them the next day using only the trick
- If it works, add an Anki card
Method 6 — Reading That Sticks (SQ3R)
- Sit down with a textbook chapter they need to read
- Set a 2-minute timer for them to survey the chapter (flip through, look at headings only)
- Help them turn each heading into a question. Write the questions in a notebook.
- They read the first section
- Close the book. You read their question to them. They answer from memory.
- Open the book. Check. Note what they missed.
- Repeat for every section
- At the end, test them on all questions with the book closed
After one session, they'll be able to do SQ3R on their own.
Method 7 — Notes That Work
- Find a set of their notes from a recent lesson
- Have a stack of blank index cards ready
- Read through the notes together
- For every important fact, write a question on the front of a card and the answer on the back
- You should end up with 10–20 cards from one lesson
- Test them with the cards — you read the front, they answer
- Sort into "got it" and "need to study" piles
Bonus — Split-Page Notes
- Find a 5–10 minute educational YouTube video together
- They take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle
- Label the left side "Capture" and the right side "Create"
- Watch the video together. They write on both sides.
- Afterwards, you test them on five facts from the left side
- Then read their right side together and discuss their reactions
Writing Essays — 5 Ws and Why-Why-Why
- Pick an essay question (from school or invent one)
- They write the 5 Ws and 1 H down the side of a page
- Together, fill in each one
- They pick the strongest angle and write a simple sentence about it
- Run Why-Why-Why — they keep asking "why?" five times in a row
- Compare the final answer to the first sentence — notice the depth
The five principles for grown-ups
- Let them fail first. The cold pretest is the whole mechanism. Don't help them prep before it.
- Don't correct too early. Let them wrestle with the answer for a few seconds before stepping in. The struggle is the workout.
- Celebrate the gaps, not just the right answers. Wrong answers are the study plan.
- Five minutes a day beats an hour on Sunday. If they want to stop after 5 minutes of Anki, let them. Consistency over intensity.
- Don't make a drama of missed days. If they skip Anki for a week, just restart. Quitting because of guilt is the killer.
What to expect
The first week feels harder than normal studying. That's because active recall is genuinely more effortful than re-reading. By the end of week two, the habit starts to click.
By month two, their grades should be visibly improving — particularly on tests that require recall under pressure (most school tests).
By month six, they'll have a study habit that's better than most adults' approach to learning. That's a life skill.
Your job is to be the practice partner. You don't need to be an expert in the subject — you just need to ask questions and listen. The methods do the work.